How to Use the Friend Contact Frequency Calculator
When life gets busy, it's easy to keep putting off reaching out to people you actually care about. This calculator compares a recommended contact cycle based on closeness against how many days have passed since you last talked, and tells you whether it's time to reach out or you still have room.
The defaults are 14 days for close friends, 30 days for friends, and 90 days for acquaintances or coworkers — a rough approximation drawn from relationship research on minimum contact frequency. Actual needs vary by person, so treat this as a reference.
Missing the cycle doesn't end a friendship overnight, but repeatedly putting it off does increase the chance of drifting apart. A short check-in message is often enough to keep the relationship alive, so once you see the result, send that message today.
Frequently Asked Questions
It's a rough approximation drawn from research on relationship maintenance — 14 days for close friends, 30 days for friends, and 90 days for acquaintances by default. Actual needs vary by relationship.
Not immediately, but repeatedly missing the recommended cycle raises the risk of drifting apart. Even a short check-in message goes a long way toward maintaining the bond.